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Living Golden 2016: A Life of Contentment

 

I’ve decided to stop seeking and simply live a life of contentment. The last two weeks have been ruthless—which explains, in part, why I didn’t post last week. I’ve been involved in a battle for my humanity. This battle involves a fight against race-gender trauma that I’ve been experiencing for some time.

 

Ever so often this battle brings me to my knees. It causes me to pull away from doing that which I know I should do—taking care of my whole self. Instead, I find my self in a position of retreat. The battle gets so intense that I retreat. It’s not that I do “bad” things; it’s just that I stop doing what I know to be beneficial to my mind, body and spirit.

 

The one good thing about my experiences, is that I find myself thinking, a lot, of what it means to live a life of contentment—especially during difficult times. And I’m not talking about individual level difficult times, I’m talking about difficult times that involve race-gender oppression (as in my case) that are occurring at a wider societal level. I know that we’ve never reached a state of post-racism, as much as some would like to believe. Thus, I make no claims that the kind of expressions of racism we are currently experiencing are new. But it’s all “new” to me.

 

On the flip side of my experiences with race-gender oppression I’m also walking a thin line that involves hope for a more just society. However, each day something happens that seemingly wants to steal the hope that is buried deep in my heart. That also makes me want to retreat. I often jokingly say that I long to find a rock to crawl under and live a simple life.

 

However, that’s not possible. So here I am, a Black woman involved in this fight for the humanity of oppressed people—a Black woman who simultaneously fights while longing to retreat.

 

Contentment Can’t be Had at a Superficial Level

So what does this all have to do with living a life of contentment? And I’m not talking about some superficial form of contentment. I’m talking about deep, soul searing contentment. In my desire to fight and retreat I asked myself who am I? What are my external and internal pressures? What do I long for?

 

What I concluded is that I longed for contentment. For me contentment is truly about letting go of the outcomes. No longer holding on to what my actions might bring or not bring.

 

Contentment involves me not fighting between resisting oppression and wanting to retreat. Instead, I will use my energies to practice a life of contentment—accepting me as I am!

 

For the month of March I will focus primarily on contentment. I hope that you join me for the ride of this journey of freedom to simply be.

 

 

Peace and Blessings,

 

 

Julia Jordan-Zachery

 

Learn more about Living Golden

 

Join me on FACE Book by clicking here or on Twitter (click here). These are “holding spaces” for our intentions, for our collective energies, and for where we can share our insights while supporting others. These are spaces where you can find your tribe as you engage in the doing of Living Golden.

 

 

Dr. Julia Jordan-Zachery is a life/career coach who specializes in working with women of color and women of color in academia specifically. I am here to help you move from thinking to doing!! Send me an email so that we can start your journey to the place you want to go: drjzcoach@gmail.com

 

 

 

{Image Courtesy of Nicolai Duerbaum}

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Living Golden 2016: A Celebration

This week it’s time for a celebration. We have been working consciously to live from our core. To live a life that is reflective of who we are—a life that is responsive and not reactive.

 

I’m going to be very honest with you. Every day, every week I haven’t lived golden.  But you know what, I’m going to take time to celebrate my wins, my successes, my failures, and my shortcomings.

 

This opportunity gives us a moment to check in—but from a different perspective. I think that when we check in it’s done with a critical eye as opposed to a sense of celebration. So let’s use a different model of checking in and approach it from the perspective of celebrating and celebrating not just what is pegged as “good”. (more…)

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Living Golden 2016: A New Rhythm

 

My life can be so unpredictable that I find myself having to find a new rhythm and often. But then I find myself longing for my old rhythm. But what exactly was my old rhythm? As an academic, my life changes every three to four months. As a mother, my life changes every day. When I think that I know the pick up time from school, or what event is happening at her school, I’m surprised by the text (which has become increasingly annoying) that alerts me of a change. When I think that I’ve found my groove, it’s disrupted by a student of color, or me, being racially targeted on campus. Then everything really goes array and my lovely schedule that I developed during my weekly planning session is no more.

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Living Golden: Reflecting and Moving Forward

As we begin February it’s a good time to not just plan your month, but to reflect on January. In other words, it’s a good time to look back over your month with an eye to asking: Am I moving towards my goals—my 10 year goals, my 5 year goals and my yearly goals. (more…)

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Living Golden 2016—What does Freedom Mean to You?

 

What does freedom mean to you? And I’m not just talking about your thoughts, but also about how does your body feel when it’s free.

This week, I want us to explore how freedom feels—in terms of mind, body and spirit. Beyond our quest for personal freedom I also want you to think about what freedom means to your community.

 

So this week we are being conscious of the following

  1. How do you imaging being free? How does your body feel?
  2. How do you imagine freedom for your community?

 

Finally, How are you directing your energies towards your understanding of freedom?

 

This breathing exercise you might find useful in helping you to tap into not just your mind but your body as you explore what freedom means to you.

 

 

Wishing you a wonderful and joyous week.

 

 

Julia Jordan-Zachery

 

 

Learn more about Living Golden

 

Join me on FACE Book by clicking here or on Twitter (click here). These are “holding spaces” for our intentions, for our collective energies, and for where we can share our insights while supporting others. These are spaces where you can find your tribe as you engage in the doing of Living Golden.

 

Dr. Julia Jordan-Zachery is a life/career coach who specializes in working with women of color and women of color in academia specifically. I am here to help you move from thinking to doing!! Send me an email so that we can start your journey to the place you want to go: drjzcoach@gmail.com